Me v. Others

Instead of asking, "What is wrong with you?"  Why don't more people ask themselves, "Where am I at fault?"  Being in a recovery program, I have asked myself  that.  I have control issues, I sometimes can't help but lie, I am a bit selfish.  These are things I have discovered about myself, on my own with the guidance of a sponsor.  I have fears and resentments, too.  I would say, that right now my biggest resentment is against people that want to pick apart my program yet won't work their own.  The world and society in general, would benefit greatly if everyone took a good, long look at themselves and then tried to correct their own problems.  Futility is trying to get others to do what you want them to...and I get the paradox, I want it both ways...so what am I to do?  How do I treat others with respect when they are self-sick and won't take the necessary actions to heal?  How?  Live my life as an example and be the best person that I can be, someone my kids can look up to.  Blessed be.